I'm In Love With A Friend

I met a girl, she was another member of staff and we instantly hit it off. We have known each other for the past year and a half and have become extremely close - but just as friends. I have realy fallen for her and have been desperate to tell her how I feel but i am petrified that it might ruin what we already have, can anyone give me some advice or let me know if they have been in the same situation.

Im in the same situation! I’ve done all the "I’m interested" gestures - you know brushing up against her really close, staring longingly into her eyes, having a cheeky squeeze of her bum when I walk past. Im so frustrated I could explode!. Have you got any tips for me muddied up?

Personally, if it were me, and you were my friend who declared undying love it would make me uncomfortable and embarassed if it wasn't reciprocated. You have to make certain that there's at least a chance she feels the same about you before you open your mouth because otherwise you're likely to ruin a very good friendship.

My advice is to sound her out a bit. Go to the pub, have a few drinks and then start talking about your love life. See how she reacts. And if she starts thinking of friends of hers she can set you up with, she's NOT interested. And if she changes the subject, she's NOT interested. And, if she avoids making eye contact and sounds nervous, she's probably not interested.

Never kiss the pavement AFTER the parade of elephants goes by. Get off the teeter-totter of self-depreciation and start building your own emotional maturity. Dude is willing to like you, but not willing to like you like you want--sounds like lusty high school angst to Rhoda. His issues seem to be blaming women for his troubles--you know even if you score a big date--he will be bemoaning your little quirks in the future...the problem is never HIM is it? Nope, and never will be. So give him a card to your moms therapist and spank his tiny butt when he goes home with a: lets talk when you grow up.

I think you should wean him away from asking you questions about his relationship and stay uninvolved in it. Let nature takes its course. If his relationship works out, you need to move on. However, if it doesn't and he's suddenly available, let your feelings be known. Either way, you need to keep from being involved. You know, asking a few questions is one thing, but you have to wonder about the guy if he comes to you often asking questions. If the roles were reversed and you were his girlfriend, I think you would be upset that he's asking another girl relationship questions. It just seems inappropriate. Before falling head over heels for this guy, you need to take a fresh look. Good luck.

Girl, stop giving advice. Any advice you give is spoken out of rose colored lips. Your advice will always, even though you might deny it, be tinted by your unspoken desire for this dude. And face it...you DO get off knowing that they have issues. It makes you happy, and you keep thinking "well, if he and i ever do go out, I know what not to do". I think that's called unfair advantage. :-)

On the mommy at home subject....I'm all for the mom or the dad staying at home full time to take care of the infant if the family finances allow it. I know many women who work full time, single parents or partnered, who have child care for their children. I confess, they are better off financially, and so their quality of child care is high. Their children all seem happy and well adjusted.

The flip side of this is that my mom was a stay at home mom, and I could NOT stand her. I saw it as laziness, as mooching off my dad, and providing a bad example to myself and my sisters. Of course, my mom is still unemployed but all three of her daughters work and couldn't imagine life without it.

Do not tell the brother you like him. Give him honest advise and do not help mess his relationship up. If you are destine to get closer and persue a relationship together, it will happen. You only let it be known to him if this relationship doesn't workout. It will get really complicated for a brother if you lay this on him while he is in a relationship already. Things will change between the two of you, and it maybe for the better or it maybe for the worse. Be a little patient it will happen.

Talking about sex is not only prevalent in the South. It's a Universal thing. A woman must be able to steer a conversation in the direction she wants to go. If a man can see that the subject isn't what you are really about, he will go in the direction you are headed.